June 27, 1: I think my problem is not expecting anything off anyone, so maybe this has always happened in my life as a positve pole sense. There seems to be this consensus that a single woman is a failure.
I thought I was doing pretty good. Even so, there were warning signs that my kids still had too much stuff. In June, we took a field trip to Reptile World in Orlando.
Afterwards we decided it would be fun to take the girls to dinner at a dinosaur-themed restaurant called T-Rex in Downtown Disney. By the time we made it home the Build-a-Dino had been forgotten. At least by her.
But we were worried. The Breaking Point In the weeks that followed, Chuck and I talked a lot about how we were going to handle this lack of contentment we were noticing.
Then one morning near the end of July, after telling my kids to clean their room for the umpteenth time, I made the somewhat impulsive—albeit pre-warned—decision to take away ALL their stuff.
Every time I came back to check on them, they had not only NOT picked up, they had made an even bigger mess. I finally gave up and took it all away. I calmly began packing up not just a toy or two, but every single thing.
I even took the pretty Pottery Barn Kids comforter from their bed. And just like that, their room was clear. Paradigm Shift I had no idea what a dramatic difference this one semi-impulsive decision would make in all our lives. I first started noticing a real change about 4 weeks later when we took a family trip to Key West.
Not a toy, not a cheesy souvenir, not a light-up necklace from a passing street vendor. We passed hundreds of shops and they loved looking in the window, but they were content just to be. Not once did we have to tell them not to ask, or explain that being together was what mattered.
The truth is that when I took all their stuff away, I was terrified at what would happen. I worried that I was scarring them for life, depriving them of some essential developmental need, taking away their ability to self-entertain. In reality, the opposite has happened. Instead of being bored, they seem to have no shortage of things to do.
Their attention span is much longer and they are able to mindfully focus on their task at hand. They are far more content, able to appreciate the blessings that they do have, and able to truly enjoy the moment they are in without always having to move on to the next thing.
They are more creative and patient, more willing to share, far more empathetic towards the plight of others, and, with little to fight over, they hardly fight at all.
What I love even more is that they are able to recognize excess on their own. Aside from a favorite stuffed animal and the comforter on their bed, which they both earned backneither of them actually want their toys back on a permanent basis. They like not being overwhelmed by stuff and not having to spend so much time cleaning their room.
We can just read and use our imaginations. No turning back When I first became a mom I was so happy to have a chance to start over, to undo through my children all the wrong that was done to meto give them everything I felt I had missed out on.
I wanted our lives to be perfect, and my vision of perfection included a perfectly decorated bedroom filled with beautiful things, a life where they would want for nothing.
I equated giving them stuff with making them happy, a message that our consumer driven culture hammers into our psyches from the time we our born.I am a mother of three, part-time doctor, full-time wife and mother.
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